Hey beautiful girl!
You want to know a little about me huh?
I would describe myself as an outlier. I started my own business at the age of 25. I moved to Shanghai all by my lonesome at the age of 29 (I’ve since moved back to Australia). I resisted the social pressure to settle for any nice man all the way up to 32 – and I’d dated a lot of nice men.
At 30, my asian parents as well as every other asian I met – young and old, were pressuring me to get married and telling me what a freak I was to still be single at this age.
I almost started to believe them.
I kept chasing unavailable men until I figured it out.
Now I’m happily married to my Australian teddy bear (my husband Brad), and we have a beautiful and delightful 2 year old daughter, Luna.
There is ONE other thing.
I’m totally devoted and obsessed with helping women achieve their dream love. If you’re hurting right now, if you’re in pain over another failed relationship, I believe I can help.
I’ve suffered and being in so much pain over men. I’ve blamed men. I’ve blamed myself. I’ve chased after emotionally unavailable men. I’ve chased men due to superficial qualities like his looks or his career. I’ve dumped nice men and later regretted it. I’ve been ghosted, faded out, dumped after only a few months. I’ve “quit” dating so many times. I’ve also dismissed good men for silly reasons (at the time seemed legitimate) only to chase after the one guy who didn’t and couldn’t commit.
I’ve had my fair share of casual sex and one night stands.
I’ve also had a few long term relationships.
I’ve broken hearts and I’ve had my heart broken.
I’ve spent many years single, alone and feeling sorry for myself.
I feel like I’ve ran the gamut of what there is to experience in terms of dating and relationships.
I’ve also devoured dozens and dozens of self-help, dating & relationship books and courses. Like you, I wanted to know what I was doing wrong!
Eventually, I concluded:
- Most dating advice were common sense and gave very little substance past: love yourself, live a great life and wait for men to pursue you.
- Following dating rules is the fastest way to create more anxiety.
- Caring about what men think actually keeps you away from attracting a great man.
- If you want a fulfilling relationship, you must start telling the truth – but no one teaches you “how”. (Most dating books tell you to do the opposite).
- Being attractive is not enough.
- Being fun, carefree and independent is not enough.
- No amount of male attention “counts” if you’re not interested in them.
- And the most important one of all: men can’t make you happy.
It took me 15 years of dating (my first boyfriend was at 17 years old) to figure out that last one.
If you’re like me, you have high standards and expectations of what a dream relationship is for you. For anyone with these standards, the path to love will not be easy.
Dating is not for the fate of heart. It requires persistence, resilience, courage and a ton of self-love and patience to yield results.
But deep down you know you’re worth it.
Perhaps you’ve put in hundreds of hours of self-help work.
Perhaps you’ve spent hundreds if not thousands of dollars on self-help programs and courses.
Perhaps you know you’re someone who’ve actually worked on herself; on her career, on her mind, on her appearance and now you want the best for your love life too.
There is no shame in that.
For us ambitious women, we have big dreams and goals, and we definitely require a man who will support us and our dreams. Sometimes that can feel a bit heavy and even a little impossible.
I want you to know, your dream man is out there waiting for you, wondering where you are and wishing to meet you. You need to go find him. You need to say to him “Hello, I’m here.”
The moment he knows you and sees you, he’ll turn off his dating apps, he’ll invite you to meet his family, he’ll excitedly plan and talk about getting married and having kids. He’ll be dragging you to go ring shopping with him.
He’ll spend his weekends and weeknights adoring you and running errands with you and stealing passionate kisses when no one is watching.
Most importantly, he will communicate and work through problems with you and commit to being a true partner in crime for you.
Hard to believe this is possible right now?
I don’t blame you.
Your brain is not fully convinced yet. And that’s ok. It’s part of the journey. For now, imagine all that stands between you and that dream is the ability to go out there and find him.
Let’s find him together 🙂
